This talk was named after a phrase from Victor Hugo who gave all her food to her children, not because she is not hungry, but because she is a mother. Elder Holland talks about the central role motherhood plays in the gospel of Jesus Christ and gives many principles of comfort and courage for mothers who may be struggling. Its never the men. Uchtdorf. iPhone. Im asking this out of genuine curiosity/responsibility for handing stuff out. Any Advice? Mother's Day became the hardest day of the year for me. Support Epic Family Fun! No, an inclusive talk will be about current and eternal womanhood, one part of which may including being a biological mother in mortal life. . I didnt enjoy Mothers Day during my years of infertility, but Ive been surprised that I enjoy it even less now that I have children. She used several stories from the NT about Christ & his mother Mary to illustrate principles that we can all use to improve our relationships with others. It seems like every time theres a church scandaland especially one that concerns moneypeople start arguing that the scandal-ridden church (or even churches in general) should lose their tax exemptions. I think this can be especially true for women who feel theyre just holding on. #109 Rayloved the roller coaster quote on motherhood. Motherhood as a path to choose to be a better disciple of Christ by caring for those Christ lives.feed my sheep, etc. Sacrament meeting is for honoring and remembering the Savior, its not Fathers Day or Mothers Day, its the Saviors Day! Especially since whoever asked him to speak didnt learn their lesson and he said the exact same talk a year later. Uchtdorf, but you have to admit he gets pretty Hallmark(y) sometimes. And the Uchtdorf talk on grace from last conference and his talk on the flowers might be good ones. She talked about how her convert mother negotiated church attendance with her inactive husband, how she brought the gospel into the home to the extent she could while maintaining close family ties and coping with her own faith struggles, and how her example and choices blessed her home. However, I am concerned about the implications of a people where the female population dislikes the concept of motherhood or at least dislikes it enough that they do not want to celebrate Mother's Day. Last year, I gave this talk. We already talk about the topic, motherhood, every Sunday. Not at church anyway. My preference is for a talk focusing on women of the scriptures. So I will be going to church on Sunday, even though I never go to church, so I can remember my mother, who was never a Mormon. Speechless. I was reading about the origins of Mothers Day. I get fed up listening every year to only men saying how wonderful their wives and mothers are. Well we could have it like the Sacrament Meetings for Father's Day and have it be your usual every Sunday meeting and not even talk about women or mothers. I know my own mother dislikes being called a good mother because she feels so awful about how she raised us from her perspective. Gospel Q&A: Do We Really Have the Spirit With Us All the Time?
Sacrament - The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Thanks for clarifying. I believe the best thing a man can do is not to love his wife in word, but to help her find and be and become whatever she truly wants to be and become outside of her role as mother.
The Best Ward Mother's Day Gift - Leading Saints If you personally need one, thats fine, but not everyone needs a model for something that is experienced differently by everyone. The third tells of a mother who helped her daughter with a disability at a temple dedication. I must speak the loving word, Latter-day Saint pianist Monica Scott has arranged a touching Mother's Day medley in honor of Stephanie Pope, a mother of five who recently passed away . This has been a big concern for me, as there are many women in the ward who are very sensitive to the Perfect Mother talks, and I didnt want to heap on to their burdens. " Cogito! The second is about a mother who diligently loved her son as he struggled with same-sex attraction and labored him through his despair. Why can't we let women celebrate it how they want at home and focus on Christ at church? I Know I would like Mothers Day more if they changed the official hymn of the day from Love at Home to this one (to be sung from the perspective of the mother): 1. They can eat whatever they want, in fact. Wards/branches can use this app to create and print traditional . In order to equally celebrate Fatherhood , the males (12 years+) all get Nachos on Fathers Day (served up by the RS Presidency.). I could send you a PDF of the sheet music, but it's probably too late now for your choir and Primary to prepare in time for Mother's Day. My grandmother is my ideal of both a woman and a mother, but she was married to an alcoholic so I understand if she is not the ideal for others. I know of no better answer to [the] foul practices that confront our young people than the teachings of a mother, given in love with an unmistakable warning.. Why is that or is that just in my ward? Avoid speaking of angel mothers. She was not worthy of any review from me. Why Women, Especially Mothers, Working Outside the Home is an Abomination Unto the Lord. Cannot load blog information at this time. May 6, 2017
Geesh! The reminder was given to visit those sisters unable to attend on Mothers Day. He chose to base his talk on To The Mothers In Zion, and used it to essentially chastise and condemn working women, and it sent half the ward fuming into the bishops office. Love your mother, my young sisters. It would just be nice to complete our idealism with a good dose of reality. Preparation Print the song pages. Too much idealism masks reality and can quickly become propaganda and lies. But Ive also read this: 40 Behold, ye are little children and ye cannot bear all things now; ye must grow in grace and in the knowledge of the truth. God still loves her, and her life still had value and meaningTHE END!! If So, Should We Pray Out Loud? Latter Day Arrangements is a sheet music resource for members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints and other Christians. The broken bread is a reminder of His body and His physical sufferingespecially His suffering on the cross.
Sacrament Meeting - The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints Others must be killed or theyll live forever, injuring regular folk. I don't think it bodes well. In the same way, when we make a dramatic production of Mothers Day, I fear that we are sometimestrying to compensate for the way we devalue the real and important work they do on the other 364 days of the year. This is the same reason we do not have missionary farewells any longer. Is it apeople incapable of focusing on the joy of others? Identifying ideals is somehow so treacherous for the psyches of women that that must never be mentioned? Did they not have mothers? I wonder if a member of our bishopric reads this blog? Her mother didnt come across as being perfect, but rather imperfect but faithfully trying, and her simple persistent efforts turned out to be eternally valuable. A small gift for Mothers Day is fine, but if you give chocolate to a diabetic or a piece of pie to someone with gluten intolerance, what have you given? The responsibility mothers have today has never required more vigilance. A year later he died in a car accident, and the children went back to mom, whose life was now very different. My mom still to this day says it was the best Mothers Day talk ever. I love your idea of wearing different color of flowers. Drunk as he could be. 2. So be kind to her. My mother died just a little less than a year ago, and I find that I never appreciated Mothers Day at all until now that my mother is gone. Heres my updated version: Im so glad when Daddy comes home, Now, I detest it. Wow! Theres got to be a way to show a little appreciation and recognize their importance and significance without it being guilt-inducing. Scriptural women are perhaps safer :-) And in our ward, the men get cans of Dads Root Beer or Sugar Daddy candies. It was designed with ward choirs and Sacrament Meeting musical numbers in mind. Honest! Isnt it reasonable to think that Abe is trying a little too hard, and might be overcompensating for something? 22 I too am irritated by mother-worshipping in MD talks, but at the same time, I think many Mormon women identify so strongly with being a mother and so many have sacrificed just about everything to focus on that specific role, that they really appreciate a little validation, a little boost of confidence that what theyre doing is significant and has meaning. Products; . Elder Ballard lists three ways mothers can do that; first, is realizing joy comes in moments, second is to not overschedule children, and third, to find time to cultivate talents and interests. Well, counselor x/counselor y is in charge of May, I dont know what hes doing for sure . Alece, I also love CS Lewis, and agree that we should look to higher ground in our mortal journey. Well, I wont bore you with all the mediocre talks over the years, I will just tell you that the best song for MD from the primary children was Armies of Helaman. I actually gave two sacrament meeting talks on Mothers Day during our childless/infertile years. Personally, I like cookies. Maybe Ill get a pizza and tell the kids to cook it for breakfast when Sunday morning comes.
Teach Me to Walk in the Light - Mother's Day Song No talk is necessary, but a simple acknowledgement of our love for all the women in our lives is nice. Nothing, wakes people up in sacrament meeting like talking about chimpanzees dismembering each other. In honor of Earth Day, you could throw in the topic of Mother Nature also! In my nearly 40 years in the church that has borne true. Finally, Elder Holland offers his thanks to mothers around the world. I like the idea of a simple gift for those in attendance. I went to Sac. How could I forget? He also discussed the importance of placing motherhood first in our lives but not allowing the pressures of motherhood to sap us of joy. Our old ward in NY would take the funds normally used to purchase flowers, chocolate, etc. It is also a reminder that through His mercy and grace, all people will be resurrected and given the opportunity for eternal life with God. I dont like the sappy talks about the perfect mothers. 1) Peanut butter sandwiches served with a smile tastes much better than the fanciest meal served with a side of stress. Ive decided to see if I can discern consistent reasons why the good ones are good and the bad ones are terrible. I want to hear about the mother who lost all her children, because she made a lot of mistakes. According to our teachings, Jesus the Messiah wasnt just sinless, He was God. The two adult speakers should center their talk on Jesus; if you want, assign a youth speaker to speak on Mothers, the Primary sings a song, and pass out the flower at the end. 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LDS Mom Launches Exciting New Party Game. first adult speaker: Motherhood is like a roller coaster: there are lots of ups and downs, and sometimes you just have to close your eyes and scream., second adult speaker, quoting a Native American proverb: The soul would have no rainbow if the eyes had no tears., benediction, by a former Bishop: Heavenly Father, we speak with thee every day, and we look forward to the day when we can renew our relationship with Heavenly Mother.. Aleah Ingram May 3, 2021 Entertainment. In return, the Lord renews the promised remission of sin and enables Church members to always have his Spirit to be with them (Doctrine and Covenants 20:77). It is not that women want to be from Venus, but they want to be from Venus five universes beyond our own. I explained that I was not calling any men to speak, due to their tendency to give perfect mother talks, and felt they could do a better job giving an honest uplifting talk that could be of benefit to the mothers in the congregation. Most seemed to realize bishoprics are trying and they appreciate any effort. So our ward did 3 talks on Christ with each one saying one sentence of gratitude about their individual moms right before bearing their testimony. Last year, I did an arrangement of "I Often Go Walking" for the Primary children and our ward choir to perform together. Ere the sun goes down. That bishop that moved his ward away from elaborate gifting was doing the right thing. Oh and starting with Anthropologist Hrdys observations on what a plane full of chimps rather than humans would look like. Our HC speaker will be talking about forgiveness this Sunday at the special request of our Leadership. In the spirit of the quib in #21 we should just cancel these commercial holidays. Very useful counsel, Mark. Like many others, my wife and her mother have both always struggled with hearing sacrament meeting talks on Mothers Day. The greatest Mormon blog in the universe. Your arrangement sounds really cool. So, I am assigned to give a talk next week. Some were difficult for metotell without choking up. I am glad you had a good father, but honestly, that attitude is what keeps me away. That cost a war pension. The first speaker was a single father, then the bishop spoke, then the stake president spoke. I wonder if this phenomenon is uniquely Mormon. . :( Everyone can just disregard parts that may sound harshor disregard the comment altogether I reckon. Or the best of both worldssend all women to RS and have the chocolate there so you get the women to walk through the door instead of to their cars, and so the kids arent begging for it? Well done! Doesn't seem strange in a religion that supposedly is so family focused? I have to say that I was almost offended that there would be an assumption that FD would be a piece of cake. Respect her. I struggled with infertility for nearly a decade. I have been given mostly free reign on my message. Many said not to assignmother or female focused messages in sacrament meeting, others said to keep your effortssimple as long as it is sincere. We teach that you are basically good or even great (gods in embryo), that you are responsible for your actions and that you can actually make other people do what is right through prayer and works especially your children, that the sins you accumulate both those of commission and omission are entirely your fault, that Christ is not really in the middle of the picture until you really screw up and commit something unforgiveable like adultery and that you need to try harder to keep every one of those commandments or you are going to lose your reward of having a planet & of having eternal sex , and the celestial DFAC will snatch your children from you and destroy your perfect family sprouting from the buried nuts of polygamy where mother valently hoisted the impossible burdens. It is based only partially on a professional clergy with access to time-proven messages and more likely on fundamental theological differences. anon, pretty sure hearing about an old guys non-existent sex life is worse. I am 70 years old and have never been a mother, but I had one. Yea like all of you My Mother sucked too. Snickers. Aim at earth and you get neither. Feel free to disagree with Lewis as well, but I feel like Im in pretty good company at this moment! More importantly, what impact does this conscious attempt to devalue motherhood within our community have on the future of the family? It worked well in my ward, I think. Ohand did you say you had an extra ticket??? Ill be hiding in the clerks office. It was my missionary farewell, back when such things were acceptable. at all.. An ideal is fine to have in your own life, but imo it is dangerous to attempt to have one for a worldwide religious organization. Make it different, and they will see you are trying. Below, youll find an excerpt from each talk and a link to the full text. In one of my wards, the women of the congregation were given wooden spoons as their gifts at the end of the meeting. Print out the short questionnaires included in the printable and distribute them to the mothers in your ward a few weeks before Mother's Day. She cares about your eternal safety and happiness. I have attended other Christian churches enough to realize why it is much less likely that they have painful mothers day talks. Have all the talks be by women.
Sacrament - LDS Living A break from the primary room!) How can a father raise a happy, well-adjusted daughter in todays increasingly toxic world? It appears that we have adopted the perverted sense of inclusion to such a degree that we cannot mention our gratitude for our mothers and motherhood without "hurting" or "marginalizing" those who are not mothers. They always see what they havent done instead of what they have because they are constantly reminded of what they should be doing. Have You Discovered the Love of The Everyday Christ? I guess mothers also die, just like plants, but not usually at our own hands. Just pass out the chocolates and let all the women go to a park where buckets of KFC, potato salad and slaw are in abundance and/or veggie pizza and cheesecake. Ugh. At my ward the angel mothers were to aspire to. http://www.lds.org/general-conference/2008/04/daughters-of-god?lang=eng, Ray (#58) Steve Ps post is evidence that a talk from 2007 which has been essentially corrected is still being recycled today. We are an outlandishly weird, mixed up bunch of folk. Available Now: 2023 Temple Calendar. It was given by one of my high school friends. more guilt and more controversy.). Julie B. Beck reminds women what it means to be a mother who knows listing a number of attributes, including the principles of bearing children, honoring sacred covenants, nurturing others, doing less, teaching, and leading. Idealsno, no maam not for me. Partaking of the sacrament is a witness to God that the remembrance of His Son will extend beyond the short time of that sacred ordinance. I do think a lot of Mormon women enjoy talks that validate their efforts at motherhood, and I think some of these talks get interpreted as angel mother talks when theyre really not. When chocolate is handed out, our children end up begging for it but its the one day I wont share. Thanks for all your thoughts. This morning I decided to Google search Mothers Day LDS talks and came upon this article. Im grateful for it. I have an aversion to bringing my family's celebration intochurch and causing other women pain. Find another way to show appreciation to Mothers! Weve had sermons based on bumper stickers, Willy Wonka, the Grinch, and quite possibly Chicken Soup for the Soul, etc. On the road this week I attend Mother's day services with the fourth ward in St George Utah. Some years it gets a nod, other years the talks are unrelated. On Sunday Morning my sister and I drove almost 2 hours each way to go visit my maternal grandmothers grave. Beware the philosophies of Hallmark, mingled with scripture. lol. The average of the survey said their bishopric probably spends about $1 per sister for Mothers Day gifts. My best friend (unmarried, childless at 51) has been asked to speak. Best Mother's Day Topics, Scriptures, Conference Talks, Etc.
A new Mother's Day song for Mormons - Religion News Service Doesn't it seem strange in a religion that supposedly is so family focused that we have people who ignore the cries of many of the women in church who want to be mothers and can't be or who sorrow over children who are not making good eternal choices? THE major Mothers Day talk in Sacrament Meeting in our ward this week, I have forwarded all of this discussion on to him! This ordinance is an essential part of worship and spiritual development. The main message I gathered from reviewing this survey is, keep it simple, dont try tohave specific female messages during the meetings, and then serve a fun refreshment in the third hourjust because. This is Elder Hollands second appearance on this list of LDS talks on motherhood. Well give you an honest deal! Honestly, considering how touchy this subject is (women w/out kids, abusive moms, separated/divorced men who don't want to be, moms who've passed, etc), I'd focus on Womanhood. #46 That is an awesome idea for your talk. THAT is what non-denominational Christian churches do :). She told us that as a girl, she would sit in her room crying, with big welts on the back of her hands, but now that she was grown up, she understood why her mother did it, and she was grateful, by golly. I pray the Spirit will be with me today as I give this talk. I remember my dad saying it was one of the most powerful and real talks hed ever heard in a Mormon church meeting. My own father would probably appreciate a plant, but fortunately he enjoys cookies too. We've gathered five inspiring gifts for Latter-day Saint women to help them feel cherished and celebrated. And out the door I flee. Nice post Mark, I think we do need to be careful about how we say some of the things we do in church, and elsewhere. I think it turned out great. 30 Inspiring LDS Quotes About Mothers & Motherhood, Church Leaders Honor Mothers Over the Holiday Weekend, Church Releases Tribute to Mothers, You Are Enough, FREE Happy Mothers Day Coloring Page Printable, The Family is a Divine Blessing | 6 March 2023, Come Follow Me Recap Thy Faith Hath Saved Thee | 5 March 2023, Miracles Come Through Fasting | 4 March 2023, Young Latter-day Saint Missionary Passes Away in Georgia, 5 Things You Didnt Know About the Day the LDS Church Was Organized. Well, count me among the lucky ones who are speaking this coming Sunday. It isn't uncommon for LDS women to be dealing with some combination of the following factors: a difficult marriage, no marriage, no children, difficult children, health problems, loss of faith. Worst Moms Day talk ever: when we (and most of our friends) were newlyweds, one of our friends (a guy) was asked to give the big glory of motherhood talk. Pres Hinckley and apparently Mark has it right. Not a perfect example but I was striving for some other options besides stripling warriors moms. One thing I would add is that somehow we need to stop telling LDS women that they need to do everything in 6 days and 90% income with smiles on their faces and do it better than their non-LDS peers. I have had a lot of thoughts about Father's Day because my father passed away on May 23 about a month ago. . My kids are way too distracting. It is even worse when women are so enthused with Father's Day that they want to ignore it completely - as in absolutely not mention it. Glad as I can be Oh, and my husband is speaking in our ward this Mothers Day. I totally agree. I have been called by God to be there and that is where I should be. I am on the Speakers Bureau for the Rape Abuse and Incest National Network (RAINN) and we would welcome the donations too. Theyre all very good, and not being critical, but Hallmark w/ scripture would seem to be one way to describe the style of Pres. A BIGTHANK YOU to Heather Mecham for compiling all the results from this survey. Not that I am anything special, but I gave a Mother's Day talk when I was a bishop that was so well-received even my own mother loved it. Im sorry too for the harshness In my expression in a previous thread regarding your views of sacrament meeting. Kristine, thank you again. Usually chocolate, a plant or flower. This might be a useful reference in terms of stories about Christ and women (not saying to cite it, just to get scripture references and helpful context): http://www.fairmormon.org/perspectives/fair-conferences/2015-fairmormon-conference/christs-emancipation-of-women-in-the-new-testament. Why does the church HAVE to be a part of it? This talk by Sheri Dew focuses on how motherhood is for all women, regardless if they have children or not. One of her favorites: Im so bad when daddy comes home, Our current ward celebrates Mothers Day with the obligatory talks.
LDS Ministering Message Mother's Day Printable - Jonesing2Create I wont be attending this Sunday either, but as always will honor my own mother by being the best mother I can be to my hurting children. Might spark some interesting conversations. Excuse everyone after Sacrament meeting to spend the time with their mothers. Although I have the suspicion that he had an ulterior motive of hoping never to be asked to speak again. Thanks for thinking of me, my youngest bishop son! Again, its about building testimony and gaining faith. Ziff, thank you. Every year someone has to pick up the flowers for my ward.
Of Good Cheer: The Most Motherly Mother's Day | Meridian Magazine It was a very honest list, but emphasized that the things she would change had nothing to do with looking good, acting a certain way, or different callings. Food is the communication tool of choice for Latter Day Saints.